10 Ways To Have A Better Conversation

 So today for this post, I watched the Ted-talk, 10 Ways To Have A Better Conversation by Celeste Headlee and I really enjoyed her main idea and how she expressed everything. Headlee expressed her topic in such a way that seemed nearly relatable to everyone, and her 10 rules seem realistic and do-able. At the very beginning of her talk, Headlee explains all the things that we already know about how to have conversations, but she explains that all of that is crap and must be forgotten. Rather use her rules, some consisted of; not multitasking, rather be present in the conversation, not to equate your experiences with theirs because all experiences are individual and not everything is always about you, try not to repeat yourself because that becomes boring and tiring, and listen. Like fully and truly. Listen. Rule number 9. The most important rule Headlee explains it as. She also quoted Stephen Covey with him saying "Most of us don't listen with the intent to understand. We listen with the intent to reply." That quote stuck out to me so much because thinking about my own life and the conversations I have with people on a day to day basis, I can say that Covey is correct. No one truly understands to understand unless we are in a tough situation or forced, but everyday conversation we listen to reply. We listen to say something smarter or better then the other person, to agree and back up their statement or to disagree and start an argument. Another huge takeaway for me with Headlees talk was her main idea, to be interested in other people and to be prepared to be amazed. She explained with quoting Bill Nye "Everyone you will ever meet knows something you don't." This quote stuck out to me as well because people always think they know everything, and Headlee's fifth rule is if you don't know, say you don't know. She explains that talk should never be cheap. The more honest you are with yourself the better the conversations you will have. I loved watching this Ted-talk, it really was an eye opener to try to have better conversations. I will be putting a hyperlink down below if you seem interested, and until my next blog.

Hyperlink- Celeste Headlee's 10 Ways to Have a Better Conversation